In this article, I show you 3 ways that I use to determine if you’re an INFJ, using my three-fold method of voice, visual, and life-based typing.
1. “INFJ or not” voice-based typing.
I use voice when I talk to people on the phone. This all started when I was consulting with clients and they would often say I’m INFJ and I would either agree, or know they weren’t an INFJ. That’s how that started with typing people from consulting voice-based sessions.
If I didn’t think they were INFJ, I found that in 90% of cases, I thought they were either INFP or ENFJ.
So, that’s the starting point for that: INFJ or not.
What’s your voice sound like?
I can tell volumes about a person in the first few seconds of talking to them on a phone where their voice is the only cue I have to go off.
Briefly, I can tell INFPs often by tone of voice because it’s phlegmatic. INFJ men often have a more monotonic/cerebral tone because of Ti. ENFJ’s voices are often more excitable and enthusiastic.
The tertiary function is often responsible for how a type’s voice sounds.
INFJ Vocal tone
INFJ women’s voices often have more extraverted feeling tone. INFJ men tend to be more reserved and taciturn, and lacking in extraverted feeling. Their vocal tone tends towards depth and seriousness and their conversation is on-point with getting to the heart of what they want to talk about. INFJ men seem “torn off” from the world around them when talking.
INFP Vocal tone
INFP women’s voices are always a dead giveaway. It’s sorta like this airy floaty tone, opposite of focused. There is a characteristic Ne animated voice, that alternates with Si hum-drum vocal tone. Their Ne outlook transmits this fun feeling, but it doesn’t resolve to any straight-line, linear action, which is quite the contrary when I talk to INFJ and ENFJ.
There is also a vocabulary selection thing going on with a bias towards using words like “hamper” which is a dead giveaway I’m talking to an INFP woman. Si language. It’s like a wet blanket vocabulary.
The way I type is similar to countertransference in psychoanalysis. It’s what I feel when I hear this type’s voice, which is recurrent and predictable.
2. Visual typing
Visual typing is a lot more accurate, especially if I can see a person on a video, like famous people where there’s a lot of that info. It becomes reductionist with enough footage.
Sometimes people ask me to type them from photos. I ask for a range of photos from different time periods, and different angles, and preferably not selfies, but candid photos taken by someone else.
My typing service includes voice-based, life-based, and visual all combined to ensure the highest accuracy.
Famous examples of visual typing method applied
INFP women tend to look like anime. Think of large liquid eyes that are squinty. A lot of French girls that dress like a cross between an old maid and a hipster, and wear old school glasses, those are likely to be INFP women. Could be INTPs too, it’s like an Ne-Si thing, with some Ni id mixed in.
INFJs don’t dress like that. Both INFJ and ENFJ would be more likely to dress in a classical way, or simple way, but not that sort of advertising that “I’m a geek” way. Neither INFJ nor ENFJ are geeks. INFPs are close to ENFP in the hippie style. But INFPs are more plain in comparison. Many INFPs want to recede into the background as if saying “Don’t pay any attention to me whatsoever, I don’t want to be seen”
INFPs look like deer. Big eyes and harmless innocent anime liquid expression. INFP style and appearance runs the gamut kinda between Ne flamboyance and Si invisibility (with Fi dominance).
INFJs are cool. They’re slick. They’re streamlined, sorta cat-like, but not as exotic or catlike as ENFJs. So, similar to INFP in comparison to ENFP. A toned-down version of ENFJ, but other than that there are a lot of similarities and shared values to ENFJ. Physiologically, I would say ENFJs are slimmer and more plastic and mobile in movement and features, which is Ni auxiliary look: thin.
INFJ men can have little Fe and end up looking more introverted thinking. They have that professor, intellectual thing that you see in people like Christoph Waltz, Jeremey Irons, Nick Cave and Jordan Peterson.
INFJs tend towards average and regular facial features, what I would call “reasonable” facial features, not tending towards florid and exotic extremes like you’d see in extraverts in general, but ENFJs, ESFPs, ENFPs, extraverts with feeling function. People like Richard Gere, Roger Waters, Jeff Bridges, Natalie Portman, Kate Winslet, Alanis Morrisette, Fiona Apple are some INFJ examples.
INFPs can be more exotic or more plain and fuddy-duddy than INFJ. I’d say Fi in the dom or aux causes exoticness more than if it is not.
Famous INFP Men and Women
- Maria de Medeiros
- Gillian Anderson,
- Alexis Bledel
- Meryl Streep,
- Julianne Moore,
- Phoebe Waller-Bridge (Fleabag)
- Shelley Duvall
- Daniel Radcliffe,
- Elijah Wood,
- Tobey Maguire,
- Topher Grace
3. Life-based typing
a. Career orientation, career metabolism. There’s an inescapable physical/physiological component to it. What are you capable of doing in careers?
INFJs typically have problems with money and career.
INFJ men are focused on some philosophical or aesthetic thing and get hung up on expressing the truth of that through some form of expression. Highly intellectual, or pseudo-intellectual pursuits and ways of expressing themselves. Not talking to people. Getting lost in their own dialectic and internal dialogue about something, without any external feedback or consequences.
INFJ men are ambitious. They want to make a big impact. However, it’s basically them alone in a bedroom with all their grandiose thoughts with very little real world feedback to correct them.
INFP have career problems, but they typically have jobs because of their security mindset issuing forth from Si tertiary. They don’t tend to be ambitious in the external world. They have a middle-class mentality.
INFP women I have spoken to often work in accounting or something similar, in a corporate structure. Human resources. Teachers. Their problem is bringing themselves to bear on their environment in an effective and impactful way that makes people respect them and not fall through the cracks in the inescapable office politics of the corporate environments they work in. This is usually their main problem.
They also report that they most enjoy TRAVELING and LEARNING when given life-history inventories.
b. Relationship-orientation, relationship metabolism. What are your patterns in relationships?
INFJ, INFP, and ENFJ all have strikingly different relationship patterns.
INFP women tend to be codependent and other-focused in a naive, enabling way. They are good at keeping track of the whole history of a relationship. a led to b led to c and this is the summation of where we are at with this other person that I’m in a relationship with, or want to be, or think I am, but really am not.
INFJ people tend to be self-focused loners that have big romantic aspirations that are unrealistic in orientation, usually because they are obsessed with an ideal of someone rather than the actuality of them. See a connection to their career outlooks? This leads them to act like assholes with people they are with because their chosen muse falls off the pedestal, The INFJ pines for an unattainable ideal.
Quite contrary to INFJ or ENFJ, INFP are much more concerned with the reality of actual people. They are much more tolerant, maybe too much so. INFPs are also more focused on nuts-and-bolts of how we can be together in a real sense. Their problem in relationships is they’re too nice.
INFJs can think they are nice. But there is always some Fi id thing going on that they aren’t aware of, and it leads them to alternate in extremes of relating. Either all on, or completely divorced and seeking somewhere else. In the long-run, they tend to ignore their partners.
INFPs being Fi dominant will define themselves off a relationship. Relationships and relating are their life blood. This is true with non-romantic relationships as well. They just place more value on relationships.
INFJs main problem in relationships is that they are inherently self-mating, and just generally obsessed with themselves. Non-relational focus.
Then the soulmate! Where are they?? Then INFJ switches to the other extreme of over-relating romantically (Se is present often too).
INFPs by comparison are like hobbits. They have their workaday world, they cannot tolerate the insecurity that an INFJ on average would subject themselves to: long bouts of loneliness and isolation.
INFP would find all this quite unsettling. INFP is relatively settled and security-minded; retiring. Their relational metabolism is more even and hum-drum by comparison, neither great highs or lows. But a more constant relationship focus. They know their people. They keep tabs on them. And they can recount them in a Te (Si) sort of way. Like x did this, then I did this, then y came into the equation and said this. It’s sorta like a soap opera or a vignette of life.
INFJs are not hard-working, except selfishly for their own glorification. INFP women are hard-working good people that are taken advantage of in the workplace and relationships.
ENFJs have relational focus but it’s more like a blend between INFJ and INFP. And they are high-octane, they can process people very fast. And jobs and careers. They are FAST. They are EXECUTIVE. They can make shit happen, get shit done. They share the same romantic orientation as INFJ and INFP…in the sense that romance is one of the most important motivations in their lives. All of NF share a relationship-orientation that is in sharp departure from all other classes of types: NT, SP, SJ.
ENFJs have their shit together so it’s easy to pick them out from INFJ and INFP.
What are ENFJ problems?
Settling on one person, being hypergamous, getting bored and looking for another person either in or out of a relationship. I would say ENFJs are the most prone to cheating on their spouses or partners, or just looking elsewhere for some new novelty or fling. Hard to be satisfied in a settled relationship. Quite the opposite of INFP in this way. No moral compunction or radar. No Fi.
Being scattered. Ne id. Hyperactivity. High-octane drive to blow through careers and people like fluff. Sorta a similar problem to ENTPs. Some of them. Ne problem. But in ENFJs case it is emotionally driven and subconscious, hard to get out or see that they are like that, to themselves.
I actually think developing self-awareness is the key to this. Ni aux.
ENFJs are generally popular and well-liked, or can easily find people or groups that like them. Charismatic.
Like the dude I was consulting with who was running three businesses, drove a Mercedes through Africa, then ended up in the jungle somewhere and started doing deep-sea diving and then wanted to be the 1st in his country for accomplishing the deepest dive, which he did. But it’s this scattered unpleasant emotional energy. I notice they respond well to reflection and psychoanalytical type thing. I think that centers them, gives them insight slowly, which they need to ground. Ni. Nothing else seems to do it. Fi doesn’t really. Insight into their actions and things they have done. Why did they do it? Because they often have done a shit-ton of things compared to Se deficient INFJ and INFP. That’s how I pull them apart.
Famous ENFJ women
- Kiera Knightly
- Lisa Vicari (Girl from Dark Netflix series)
- Jennifer Lawrence
- Sharon Stone
- Naomi Watts
- Taylor Swift
Famous ENFJ men
- Leo DiCaprio
- Axl Rose
- David Bowie
- Scott Weiland (lead singer of Stone Temple Pilots)
- Mick Jagger
- Dave Grohl
- Wiley Wiggins (long-haired kid in Dazed and Confused movie)
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